Is a woman destined to a constant barrage of unwelcome advances?
Why can't I just waltz into the lunch room without thinking about the next insult to dish to the idiot that has asked me out a million times, whom I have said no to and yet continually winks and flirts with me? (I reported him to his manager by the way. I think that one quickly mutated into harassment)
Why do I have to tell a guy to stop touching me simply because he has touched too much and it just doesn't seem simply "friendly" anymore?
Why do I have to constantly talk about my family to someone who likes to pretend as though they don't exist and recreate "jokingly" me and him scenarios?
Why do I have to tell someone I don't want to hear about any more personal issues, not because I don't want to help, but because he's getting too comfortable and starting to become dependent, thinking he's in love?
Why do I have to cut people off who would be valuable business partners, tennis partners, study buddies, gym buddies, plain old friends...?
Majority of these men know I am married before they approach me, the others know it soon after, but yet, they keep trying, some simply like to flirt, others are constantly drooling. Regardless, I find it infuriating especially when I find the guy repulsive or, to be less harsh, not particularly attractive, then I actually feel more insulted than I thought I could ever be; couple that with the fact that it is pretty depressing.
Generally, I assumed that marriage will be the end of unwanted advances. I'm not silly, "end" is obviously a hyperbole, but still, it appears to have gotten worse. Some people have a theory, that married people are more confident, charismatic and will approach anyone while being easily approachable also. "More" in this sense is relative to the version of said person when he/she was single.
My single friends want me around when there are any mixers, they think I start up the party and get people interacting, they think it's a married thing...; perhaps.
In any case, a woman has a more attractive personality when married I hear.
Some others have a theory, that generally married people are safe. They don't want to leave their spouses for a fling, they just want to have sex with other people and go home, so no strings attached sex is still heavily sought after, and a married woman is the best candidate for such a seeking man, or, a married woman is in search of such sex herself and so is approachable.
Whatever the theory, a polite and subtle "No" should suffice and get an advancing man off a woman's back. Inasmuch as one would hate to repeat one's self, in the event that doesn't work, a glaring and insulting "No" should get such a man to concede turn in the opposite direction and never look back...but alas, it only works that way in a perfect world.
So what about welcomed but perhaps unhelpful advances...
Friday, August 10, 2007
Wednesday, August 08, 2007
Arrrrrrrrrrrgh...
What is it with NYorkers and body odors? Gosh! What happened to antipersperant? Oh, wait, or the good ol' shower routine? How can people stink so much and be oblivious to the pain they cause others? Or perhaps they don't care? Gosh! Could it be that they have given up? Goodness forbid!
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